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Several Ways to Respectfully Disagree
It’s easier to agree than disagree. But we can learn a lot from conversations where we don’t see eye to eye—if we can listen and talk rationally(理性地), that is. _1 These tips can help keep disagreements constructive.
Don’t make it personal. If you get upset, it can help to remember you’re mad at the idea or concept your parent (or friend, coach, coworker, etc.) is raising, not the person.
Use “I” statements to communicate how you feel, what you think, and what you want or need. 2 For example, telling your mom or dad, “You always remind me about my chores on Wednesdays when you know I have a lot of homework” has a very different tone from “I’m feeling pressured because I have a lot of homework tonight. Can I do those chores tomorrow?”
3 Being a good listener is a way of showing that you respect and understand the other person’s idea. That makes it more likely he or she will do the same for you. When the other person is talking, try to stop yourself from thinking about why you disagree or what you’ll say next. Instead, focus on what’s being said. When it’s your turn to talk, repeat back any key point the other person made to show you listened and heard what was said. 4
Stay calm. This is the most important thing you can do to keep a conversation on track. Of course, it’s a huge challenge to stay calm and rational when you feel angry about something. You may need to be the mature one who manages the conversation.
5 Being helpful and considerate toward family members, teachers, or coaches in our everyday actions helps all of us establish a foundation for those times when we might disagree.
A.Listen to the other point of view. |
B.Using “you” statements can sound argumentative. |
C.Then calmly present your case and why you disagree. |
D.Respect goes beyond difficult conversations, of course. |
E. Avoid putting down the other person’s ideas and beliefs.
F. You want to find your own path and make your own choices.
G. Unfortunately, lots of us either shy away completely from disagreements or lose it when things don’t go our way.