根据短文内容，从短文后的选项中选出能填入空白处的最佳选项，选项中有两项为多余选项。（如果所用的答题卡没有E、F、G选项，则选E涂A、B，选F涂A、C，选G 涂A、D。）
Ryan Howes, a clinical psychologist from California, says "Forgiveness is a sensitive act that can feel like it opens us up to more pain． But we need to have a way to process and let go of the effects of injury, or we risk serious physical and emotional consequences．"
People who forgive tend to have better relationships, feel happier and more optimistic, and overall, enjoy better psychological well-being．    It's a difficult process．
There's no single guidebook for forgiveness, though several experts sell their own methods．
Howes suggests focusing on four elements:
Express the emotion． Let yourself feel hurt and angry． Express it to the person who made you feel that way．    Write a letter; you don't need to send it． Shout your emotions at the top of your lungs while you're in the car, alone, with the windows down．
__  We want explanations ?even if we don't agree with them． "Was it a misunderstanding? Were you mad at me? Some sort of cognitive framework （认知框架） is necessary, even if you don't like the reason．"
Rebuild safety．  That might mean an apology, reassurance from the person in question, distance or stronger boundaries．
Let go． Perhaps it's the hardest part: making a conscious decision not to hold a grudge （怨恨）．
If you're in a relationship, this means not bringing up past wrongs． By letting go, you give up
your role as the victim and become equals again．  

A．Otherwise, talk to a friend or even an empty chair

B．Control your feelings

C．Understand why

D．Before you forgive, you need to feel reasonably sure that the act won't reoccur

E．Still, no one ever said forgiveness was easy
F．It's a promise to yourself to stop feeling hurt and to fully move on
G．You may feel helpless, or like life is meaningless