You feel happiest when you create a healthy balance between giving and receiving. If you give and give without making time to fill your own needs, then it’s likely you will burn out, or feel upset. When you take and take without giving anything back, you never feel a sense of achievement,so you are always searching for ways to fill the void in your life.
The way to create a healthy balance between giving and receiving so as to achieve real happiness is to know and then live by your values. I break values up into two groups which I call “being” and “having” values. Your “being” values are the character traits(特征)of the ideal person you would like to be. An example of some “being” values are: kind, loving, generous, inspirational, peaceful, wise and even powerful. By acting on these values, you give to others through your actions and you inspire others by “being” a positive role model. Mastering “being” these character traits becomes your life purpose.
Your “having” values are the feelings you need to create in order to be happy. These could be companionship, achievement, support, “being” valued or financial security. This is what you receive. You take responsibility for filling your own needs by taking steps to create these feelings and conditions in your life.
When you make a commitment to live by your “being” values, it becomes easier to make conscious choices rather than reactionary(保守的) ones. If your usual habit is to complain about your problems, you could choose to think and act like a calm person. A calm person might go for a walk, meditate(沉思), or set a time limit before responding. If your usual pattern is to worry, you could choose to act like a responsible or wise person. In other words, you would act like the person you choose to be—this is the key to personal power.
When you choose to act on your values, you not only feel good about yourself, but you reinforce(增强)your chosen beliefs. Over time acting in this way changes how you see the world, and in turn the way other people think of you.
The underlined word “void” in Paragraph 1 probably means .
A.a feeling of emptiness |
B.a loss of power |
C.a lack of energy |
D.a state of being confused |
According to the text, by acting on your own “being” values, you will .
A.gain a lot of power |
B.fill your own needs |
C.seek all human virtues |
D.form positive personality |
Which of the following does NOT belong to your “having” values?
A.Your success in the competition. |
B.The support from your friends. |
C.Your own peaceful mind. |
D.The friendship with others. |
What can be inferred from the text?
A.“Having” values are better than “being” values. |
B.The way other people think of you decides who you are. |
C.A calm person does not choose to complain easily. |
D.A responsible person does not care about financial security. |
The main purpose of this passage is to .
A.persuade the readers to make a commitment |
B.inform the readers how to be truly happy |
C.explain to the readers what personal values are |
D.instruct the readers how to make wise choices |